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Though news of the former couple's parting union hit the 'Net last July, Milian admits she and The-Dream still carried on in their marital relations, yet life was anything but sweet. "I tried to be someone I wasn't because I wanted my marriage to work," she reveals. "But ultimately, if it's not working, it's not working."
When photos surfaced of her ex-husband canoodling on a Caribbean beach with his assistant, Melissa Santiago, the 29-year-old was clueless of the affair. "I didn't know anything," Milian admits. "But looking back, my gut was telling me something was off. But I thought I could fix it."
Despite dealing with a bad break-up in the public eye, Milian, who's currently working on her as-yet-titled fourth studio album, has weathered the storm. "I've been to hell and back, but I survived," she says. The singer reportedly received a $4 million lump sum in her divorce settlement plus $5,000 every month in child support for Violet, the child the former couple shares.
"I learned a lot about myself this year," Milian states. "I learned what I can handle. I learned how much I can take. I learned who I am and what I will accept for myself and my daughter."